The Sword: You officially retired from gay porn and escorting today. Last week, you shot your final scene for Randy Blue last week. How did that feel?
Malachi Marx: It was cool. It was kind of like, "Ta-da!"
TS: Did they give you a cake or something?
MM: Kind of! They took me out for dinner.
TS: The title of your new book is Gay-for-Pay.
MM: Yes, the title of the book is Gay-for-Pay: The Revealing Life of a Gay Porn Star and Escort
TS: There are lots of gay-for-pay skeptics out there.
MM: Yeah, the subject receives a lot of attention. Honestly, I was more bi-curious before I got into the industry, but now that I've done porn, I know more than ever that I'm straight. I even tried in my mind to see if I could be attracted to guys. Since I was working I tried hard to see whether I'd be able to enjoy it. But I never found it sexually attractive. So I'm more comfortable in my sexuality than I ever was. I have more respect for the gay community too.
TS: How does one have sex without sexual attraction?
MM: I used the power of my mind. My first scene was a solo scene, and that was hard enough -- to masturbate in front of 6 other guys, just sitting there with all this attention, with flourescent lights, it was difficult enough to get turned on even for a solo. So I had to get over that and learn how to focus. Sometimes I'd use tricks, like straight porn on a TV set or my iPhone, but as I moved forward I learned to get to that place where I would close my eyes for 3 or 4 seconds and instantly get hard.
TS: Closing my eyes and trying really hard would make me go soft.
MM: No, I get hard by focusing all my energy and attention on something that turns me on, whether it's a girl I hooked up, my fiance, a pursuit of mine or money. I mean, I can use money alone. Money turns me on.
TS: Tell me more about money.
MM: Well, I started escorting 4 months before I started gay porn, and I went from waiting tables for maybe a grand a week if I was lucky to making a grand a night. That turned me on because it freed me up so much in my life, with all the choices, the traveling. I developed a fantasy for money.
TS: Then you became a porn star hooker.
MM: I got into escorting first and I was doing very well. I'd collect 20 regulars in a month and take myself off rentboy. I didn't have time for more clients. Then my girlfriend got pregnant, so it motivated me times 10, and that's why I got into gay porn. By making a name for myself, I was able to do better for myself. And I did it to collect material for my book.
TS: If you're not attracted to guys, do you care about whether the guys you fuck are attractive?
MM: I would definitely prefer a better body with no hair that smells good over a fat, hairy stinky client. It always makes the job a lot easier. Gross vs. nice, messy vs. neat etc.
TS: But why would a straight dude care about whether it's a hot man body or not?
MM: If I'm a dishwasher at two restaurants, and one place is a stinky old restaurant with mice, and the other place is an upscale clean restaurant downtown, I'm downtown. It was my job, my purpose was monetary gain. A lot of these guys say they're straight, but you can feel the difference.
TS: So a lot of porn stars and escorts say they're straight but are really gay?
MM: I would say that of all the 'straight' escorts and porn stars I meet, about 60% are gay or will be very soon. You get these guys who come out from these po=dunk states, get their first blowjob from a guy, and things change for them. I've seen a lot of that, and that's great because they found that out by exploring something.
TS: You've developed gay-for-paydar?
MM: Yeah, you could say that. I've been on my own since I was 14 and I trust my intuition. I've managed other escorts and developed relationships with a bunch of other guys and developed 'an acute gay-for-paydar.'
TS: Would you ask clients to send you their pictures?
MM: No, I've never asked for photos of guys before I meet them, but I've developed a formula for filtering them. I'd get about 100 replies to my profile, and I'd filter them down to 25 or so by learning about them through email, and with help from my manager and an assistant. Out of those 25 I would keep 5 regulars at a time. Overall, I was lucky enough to find 25 regulars, and they were high-end clients, one who were willing to pay a lot. That's another method of filtering: I'd set my price really high.
TS: How much?
MM: $500 an hour. Anything beyond vanilla foreplay (oral, rimming, kissing) was $1,000+.
TS: What's the kinkiest thing you've ever done?
MM: It would have to be this guy who had a fetish for bananas. He had me lube up a banana, put a condom on it, and fuck him up the ass with it. So I'm sitting there shoving a banana in and out of his ass, and then I thought I was over. But he said "No. For another thousand I want you to peel the banana and eat it."
TS: Did you eat it?
MM: Yes.
TS: The thousand dollar banana. How'd it taste?
MM: It was nice! It was a great Chiquita banana, organic, a little firm because there was still a little green on it.
TS: The man had not rendered it into mush?
MM: No, still firm!
TS: What was the most luxurious experience a client treated you to?
MM: One that was awesome was 8 days in Greece [pictured, in Athens]. I got paid $32k, I went to all the islands, had a big shopping spree in Athens, the nicest hotels, great massages, different spa treatments. The client was very well off.
TS: Was he looking for the 'boyfriend experience'?
MM: Yeah, he had been in a relationship for 12 years and he needed something exciting, so I came along. And I earned that money, too. This was a regular of mine, and I presented him with a great relationships. I helped him through a lot of his problems that he had from his relationships. It was almost like being a therapist. So that's why he took me on the trip.
TS: So, okay, you're retired, fine, but what if this dude is like, 'Hey! Now let's do Turkey for 50k!'
MM: Ha, no, I'm closing this book. I've worn many hats in my life, and it's built my character, but I'm always good at walking away from something and never coming back to it.
TS: What skills are required to be a good escort?
MM: You definitely have to be a good listener, and be able to provide something that makes them feel special, that it's all about them. It's more than sex. You have to alter who you are based on who they are. You've got to be able to ignite something in them. You can't just sit there with nothing to say over a 5-star meal.
TS: Another escort story please.
MM: One man had a OCD and a compulsive fetish where he would hire one to three escorts for a period of 1 hour to 6 hours. The first escort would come in and he would stay the entire 6 hours and the second one would stay just for an hour or two. I was always the anchor escort who came in the beginning and stayed for the full 6 hours. In those 6 hours, he had us put on all these different outfits, 30 T-shirts, all these shorts, hats, pants. It would always be these really nice hotel rooms in New York, or LA, Philadelphia or Phoenix, and he'd have the clothes in one of the rooms, folded on a table with the lights turned off.
And he'd be sitting in the chair -- this fat, rich guy who wanted to be called daddy, just sitting there in a swivel chair rubbing himself. He would say, "Go and grab the orange shirt with the football texas hat and the blue shorts," and the room was dark so you didn't want to mess up. I didn't have to do anything to him except sit on his lap sometimes and try on these outfits, stand, turn around. By the third hour, you'd just want to shoot yourself.
TS: Did anyone ever hire you to watch you fuck another escort?
MM: It depended on the client, but mostly yes, it'd be easier because of the camraderie, you had a teammate. But with other clients it was harder for me to work my A-game when another escort was there with me. But of course there were lots of situations. One client hired six escorts at the same time. It was like after a varsity game in the shower of a locker room. There were just a bunch of hot naked guys walking around the hotel room. 'Okay, who's next?' 'No, you go in there!' 'No, you!'
TS: When did you realize how hot you were?
MM: When I was 18 I was a fashion model in NYC. Dolce & Gabbanna, Diesel, Ralph Lauren, and that's when I first noticed that gay men were attracted to me. And I was very comfortable around them, I had grown up with gay friends and a gay uncle. I never did anything with guys when I was modeling but that's when I first knew that I had an ability to attract people. But I never thought I'd make a job out of it like this.
TS: Do you worry about having a stigma in your future?
MM: No. I've noticed that society has become more open about things like dark pasts, it makes you more real and able to relate to people, and I think that Hollywood is changing too. I'm hoping that my book will become a movie, and if I'm able to act in it, that'd be great. I would love to come forward and be like, "Yeah, I did gay porn, I was a fucking escort, fire me if you want to. Or better yet, you can market it."
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For a year he bared his six pack abs. Now Malachi Marx is spilling his guts. The day after the Randy Blue fuck slut and upscale escort announced his retirement, he spoke to The Sword about shoving a chiquita banana up a man's ass for $2,000.
Comments
Bullshit. It's the PHYSICAL and SEXUAL attraction to someone of the same gender, which then leads to the emotional and spiritual connection.
Malachi Mark: Yet another link in the endless gay-4-pay chain. And yet another one saying, "I'm totally straight but other guys in this biz who say they're straight really aren't." Just more bullshit on top of bullshit. No wonder gay porn is about as exciting as watching paint dry.
When a straight female porn star does lesbian or bisexual scenes no one questions her sexuality. Look at Jenna Jameson, Tera Patrick, or Belladona. Sexuality is SELF-defining. It's not really up to anyone else to question another's sexuality.
When Malachi's book collects dust after less than a year of being published, there will be other out there like him. Porn has a short attention span but a long memory. Randy Blue has hotter and more prominent gay for pay stars like Leo Giamani, Reese Rideout, and even Christian Sharpe. There's no shortage of guys to replace him but realistically after a career in porn some professions are definitely off the table.
In the end, it's also true: once you're a whore, you'll always be a whore. For every hour you spent selling your soul, you'll need an equivalent of at least three hours of therapy to deal with the emotional, mental, and spiritual cost of your once profitable profession. No one goes into prostitution without some sort of trauma.
You are way off base. I've been happily partnered to a man and totally monogamous for well over 14 years. I don't go out and have sex with women I find attractive because I'm not sexually attracted to women. I'm sexually, emotionally, and spiritually attracted to MEN, my partner specifically. That's because I'm a homosexual (yes, a few of us still exist out there, believe it or not).
If you're sexually attracted to women and find them physically appealing enough to go out and have sex with them, then good for you. Assuming you're a man, then you are a heterosexual or a bisexual, not a homosexual. Doesn't matter whether you fuck them and then leave them to go have a "mental and spiritual connection" with a penis or if you put a ring on their finger and say "I do." If you're sexually attracted to them, then you aren't gay, period. Sexuality is most certainly self-defining UNLESS you're talking bullshit, in which case people will call you on it. Besides, a man is known by his actions, not by his words. If you're pursuing and fucking women because you're attracted to them, then you're not gay.
I'm on a porn site and expressing an opinion, nothing more, nothing less. None of those companies interest me either. Unlike their male counterparts, female porn stars NEVER make sure they emphasize their total and complete heterosexuality, despite their lesbian performances. That's because very few of them are genuinely straight. Interestingly enough, very few women in straight porn are straight, and very few men in gay porn are gay. I've always found that be ironic.
In a few months no one will remember him. Most escorts always return to try and make the money they once loved so much, but what they can make falls alot. I say do not let the door hit your ass on the way out. There will always be younger and more attractive porn stars to take your place.
Best wishes & thank you Malachi for your generous contribution to the industry!
[ BTW I would think it would be HIGHLY insulting to somebody who's been cool enough with our community to be in such an industry to suggest that they MUST be gay. Not to mention doing the gay community a disgraceful disservice by not being accepting & understanding enough to believe them when they respectfully declair their heterosexuality. Hypocrites. ]
You'll never remove prostituting, porn star on your resume so why not just embrace it? The most successful former porn stars I know eventually become porn producers and directors. They're the Michael Lucas and Kristen Bjorn of this world. I can only think of Simon Rex who's a has-been MTV vj and washed up actor. Jenna Jameson and Traci Lords haven't exactly transitioned into mainstream entertainment with their mostly defunct acting careers. Belladonna did the film "The Girlfriend Experience" but she'll always be typecast as a whore and not an eventual Meryl Streepe. Probably the most successful is former porn star Dr. Sharon Mitchell who set up AIM (Adult Industry Medical).
The guys who seem to be worked up the most: the gay-for-pay denialists; those against his escorting; those against actors for trying to find a life outside of porn... what is it about his lifestyle that sends you over the edge? Do you honestly believe in what you say or is it a deep-seated insecurity that you just can't help but project on others? If you feel any sort of smug pleasure from putting the guy down, then i think it might be the latter.
Really, who are any of us to judge anyone in this business? These guys risk their health and dignity to produce a product they have no control over. A product you'll probably download illegally, jack off to mercilessly, then troll a porn blog to express in detail how sub-par it was. How much of a raging hypocrite do you have to be to jack off to porn stars then act like they're the lowest form of life?
The tone of the interview is chillingly dismissive of the feelings and emotions of those he deluded. Rather than justify his whoring by suggesting that he made people happy, he seems proud of his ability to delude his johns. While that may be the fact, writing a book about it seems repellant. Moreover, the issue of confidentiality makes one a bit queasy.
And the tone is detached, clinical and kind of scary. This story may not have such a happy ending.
It seems this guy is completely irresponsible, and out of control with his life--If this "book" think doesn't pan out I'm sure he'd run back into gay porn and escorting.
As for the gay-for-pay genre, Hugh Merme--I think it is a manufactured fantasy for insecure men; so making cheap shots about those gay men who are repulsed by it doesn't really make a case for it as well. It just means you cannot mandate taste in either groups; and shouldn't expect each other to reciprocate those feelings or opinions on it.
Personally, I've never been able to force an erection, for not only the people of the opposite sex, but also those of the same sex of whom I don't find physically attractive at all-- and I consider myself gay in either case. [So by this standard I measure he has to on some level find those sexual partners attractive. He even admits to this.] No amount of fantasy will ever make me able to force an erection, because when I'd open my eyes the illusion would be broken; but then again, I'm a realist and try not rely on fantasy to get by in life. Malachi seems to be, like those men into G4P, a fantasist-- and really its a futile attempt to try to rid those peoples affliction.
He is entitled to his own hang-ups and personal demons like anyone else, if he is adamant that he is in no way a homosexual--I wouldn't bother making the attempt to break his need for this fantasy and others like this gem:"I'm hoping that my book will become a movie, and if I'm able to act in it, that'd be great. "
I do feel there was some condescending tone: "If I'm a dishwasher at two restaurants, and one place is a stinky old restaurant with mice, and the other place is an upscale clean restaurant downtown, I'm downtown. It was my job, my purpose was monetary gain. A lot of these guys say they're straight, but you can feel the difference." -- clarify here, do you think they are in denial about being straight? Hmm, and why doesn't this standard not apply to you, Malachi?
I think those in films are just as culpable as those buying them-- so I can't chastise those producers that make a product that sales. It is the community that needs to change in which creates the demand for this product.
"unveil the battle between good and evil within the body of a so-called "sex god." " Whatever, dude. Hot, kind of a boring fuck most of the time, meh.
Until we ALL realize that Malachi is no different than the rest of the porn stars, or even mainstream celebs for that matter, who use their looks &/or talent for personal gain then we will only be decieving ourselves. That is what "the business" is all about. Get off of your high horses & be a grown MAN & own up to your own faults before you chastise others for doing the same. I think that's the definition of being a hypocrite...
This has absolutely nothing to do with decieving the gay community. Get over it & get over yourself. This is PORN. One shouldn't take such a thing so seriously. Your priorities are far out of wack if this is the case. It's no wonder why we as gay people haven't gotten as far as we'd like in society. We're all too busy turning on others & passing judgement ourselves on people like Malachi (with what goes on between HIS sheets whether there's a camera there or not) then turning around declairing we shouldn't be treated in the same manner.
Gay or straight, true story or fiction, this sounds like he has an intriguing story to tell. Although I don't know if Hollywood is quite ready for such a film. He needs a VERY good agent & develope a serious marketing strategy if he's going to make it work. Porn or not, Malachi has some serious star quality potential. Good luck, buddy. :-)
They done nothing real in gay sex seriously...
I can't feel their emotion...
Just pretending...
It's true that he takes advantage of his great looks and luscious body to make money,
but it pleased us too.