Porn & HIV: “I Want The Truth To Be Out There” ~Kayden Gray

“He escorts & he does porn, so what do you expect” is another erroneous stigma about HIV that Kayden Gray isn’t willing to let stand.

“The thing is … it takes one mistake. One night out. One bareback fuck to join the club,” was just one of many powerful things Kayden Gray had to say when he made the “I’m HIV positive and I’m fine with that” video last month to announce that he was living with HIV.

The ignorance, fear and, silence that has “allowed the stigma to continue” is part of the reason we got here in the first place. Kayden didn’t say anything about porn then. But for Kayden, the time has come.

 
Last March, it was Rex Cameron who so eloquently shared his journey to wellness in our exclsuyive interview.his journey to wellness. He was one of the first to give voice to the fact that working in the adult industry was anything but mutually exclusive.

The takeaway here, the stigma of HIV is an emotional problem. HIV itself is a medical problem. TrumpCare would interfere with the ongoing treatment of those like Rex and Kayden, living with the HIV. Take a moment and contact your congressmen and share your concerns.

And what specifically is porn’s role in any of this?

Exactly.

 
[ORIGINAL POST – May 23]

When it happened. How he got it. And why’s he’s telling his story now.

This is no melodramatic mea culpa. No crocodile tears or pleases for pity. What this is is a brutally frank and self-effacing account of Kayden Gray’s journey from his initial diagnosis to becoming undetectable to the power and importance of honesty in living with HIV no matter what your profession.

“I have noticed how many people are putting days upon weeks upon years of effort to benefit the sexual well-being of our community. Having seen that, I can’t sit on this secret. I need to do this for myself as much as anyone else out there who may need to hear this.”

“All of you who are negative, and are listening to this thinking it doesn’t affect you … because you are not stupid, you are not a whore … you can take care of yourself. Well, guess what? I used to say the exact same things. And like you, I also used the word ‘clean.’ The thing is … it takes one mistake. One night out. One bareback fuck to join the club.”

Many live with HIV in silence. That has allowed the stigma to continue and flourish in fear and ignorance. Kayden’s honesty is both refreshing and importance. Brains become enlightened one mind at a time.

Kayden Gray, thank you for the courage in sharing your story.

We wish you many years of abundant health.

8 thoughts on “Porn & HIV: “I Want The Truth To Be Out There” ~Kayden Gray”

  1. So nice that he is being so open and sharing his story it might help to end the stigma and change some guys’s outdated views when it comes to HIV.

  2. With nearly 50% of gay men in major American cities ALREADY infected with HIV, it is hard to believe the gay judgment surrounding it.

    In a world that tells us we are diseased freaks, we should resist telling that to ourselves and others, and instead educate and look out for one another.

    We’re gay men, after all.

    If we don’t do it for ourselves, NO ONE will, guys.

    Be kind to each other and be supportive. There are already enough horrible people in the world.

    Let’s not become like them.

  3. Sigh as much as I wish HIV would go away I feel it won’t anytime soon. I know PrEP and condoms being used alongside help to stop the spread but almost all the guys are ditching the condoms feeling that PrEP makes them immune to everything. Alas it doesn’t. And so far there are 3 individuals who have caught a strand of HIV while on PrEP. So as much as I hate to say it our community will keep this virus alive as long as we are still barebacking.

    I know some say well straights do it why cant we. Well Straights don’t have as much sex as we do in the gay community. An average straight male will have sex maybe once a month, or twice with 2 different women if he’s really hot. But an average gay guy will have sex with maybe 5 guys an average week. So it’s a whole different situation and things spread more.

    Now I’m not slut shaming but I’m just saying we have to be smarter on protecting ourselves.
    Just my 2 cents.

    1. The thing is we will never get every gay man on the planet to stop barebacking because of many reasons but the main one being that bareback is naturally how sex is done, and it feels so much better. So while PrEP is not 100% effective it is better than nothing, and is the best we have right now other than condoms when it comes to preventing the spread of HIV.

  4. I have been a fan of Kayden since some of his earliest videos. He is always HOT and AWESOME in all
    his scenes whether topping or bottoming. He seems genuine and really into what ever he is asked to do.
    I was very happy when he recently won the British Male Star Award.
    I would like to wish Kayden all the success and happiness.

  5. I used to judge/slut-shame/pity poz guys. I thought they were all bugchaser morons with a death wish. But I was a total hypocrite. I would frequent sex clubs in the ’90s — early 2000s. I had sex with hundreds of men, most of them anonymous, few of them famous(!) … and some Republican (we all make mistakes). At the same time I was terrified of catching HIV … but I never did. I never once had unprotected anal sex yet I never used protection for oral sex. (As my sister once told me, “No one wears condoms for a blowjob, that’s just silly!”) It’s astounding that I was never infected.

    I was a total slut yet I judged others for being infected. I so was wrong and so lucky. Science is on the verge of curing HIV. We used to fear a horrible death but now it’s all about stopping Trump from fucking us out of health care. Hopefully, Kayden will be supported by his country’s National Health and live for another 80 years.

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