“All I could really do was reach back and smack him in the head with my hand. After I did, he bit down on my right butt cheek, hard.” ~Alex
UPDATED Thursday, February 8th at the bottom of this post. See the original post below for context.
[Original Post: February 6] Guys, we have to stop meeting like this.
Alex is now the fifth man to come forward in accusing Topher DiMaggio of sexual assault.
Topher DiMaggio is, or least, was, a gay porn star. We’re a gay porn blog. That makes this news whether I like it not. Then again, reporting on it is nothing compared to enduring the alleged assaults and the aftermath that has followed the now handful of accusers into the rest of their lives.First, it was fellow porn star Tegan Zayne who accused Topher of not just sexuall assualt, but rape.
“Alex” is the latest. Like Bryan, he came forward to Str8UpGayPorn. As they point out, Alex told his story to them over the weekend – before the Bryan Hawn story broke on Monday.
There is a common thread of physical and verbal assault through all five of their stories. Including the new one from Alex today.
“So I’m talking to Topher, and he just grabs my ass out of nowhere.
I thought he was joking, so I jokingly turned around and pulled my waistband down a little to be like, yes, that’s my ass. And then, all of a sudden, he flipped me around against the railing, crouched down and pulled my shorts down and started eating my ass.
Initially, I was stunned. I tried to push back and tell him, no, and he reached his left arm up and pinned me down against the railing. I couldn’t really move and wanted him to stop, and my boyfriend had this look of shock on his face. All I could really do was reach back and smack him in the head with my hand. After I did, he bit down on my right butt cheek, hard.
When I got away from him and was leaving, Topher was yelling at me and calling me a pussy over and over again.”
As they also point out, Alex and Topher met at a party for the underwear line Andrew Christian where Topher is one of their Trophy Boys. While Andrew Christian did update their header on Twitter yesterday and removed Topher, as Str8UpGayporn also reported, Topher is still headling an Andrew Christian event this weekend in Honolulu. Topher is a native of Hawaii.
Harvey Weinstein was kicked out of his company. Al Franken was booted from Congress. Kevin Spacey was cut out of “House of Cards”. Expulsions, retirements, leaves of absences, and removal have been the fate of many other accusers.
This started out “he said V. he said.” It’s now become “he said V. what he, and he, and he, and he, and he said.”
The five “he’s” seem credible. The other he has only released a partially plagiarized statement so far.
[UPDATE: February 8]
Andrew Christian has broken their silence on their most visible Trophy Boy.
To Str8UpGayPorn, who pointed out that two of the five alleged incidents took place at an Andrew Christian event, they said,
“We are taking this issue VERY seriously and Topher is on indefinite suspension while we look into the matter.”
And in responding to Queerty, an Andrew Christian rep emailed them:
“Andrew Christian does not condone sexual abuse or any other type of abuse or mistreatment to members of our community. We are taking allegations made by the victims very seriously. Accordingly, Topher is on indefinite suspension while we look into the matter. Late last year Andrew Christian started Project LOVE to help support various worthy charities in the LGBTQ community. Andrew Christian is committed to creating a safe welcoming environment for our LGBTQ family.”
Yes. That was the right thing to say. But coming from Andrew Christian and the fact they sent out stolen, nude photos of Tom Daley in an effort to sell more underwear, a grain of salt comes along with the statement.
Speaking of statements, to those accusing this and all outlets of going on a witch hunt against Topher, I would remind them all of the accusers came forward, we did not go to them.
With the exception of Topher and his five alleged victims, no one knows for certain what happened.
Topher, however, is a gay porn star. We are a gay porn blog. This makes it news in our wheelhouse whether I like it or not.
And I don’t. Not one bit.
But is there one truth we can all be sure of:
No matter what you do for a living, your gender, where you come from, or where you want to go in your life …
No means no. Period.
If you or someone you know has been the victim of rape or sexual assault, there are many resources available for help, including RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network), the National Domestic Violence Hotline for LGBTQ Abuse, EMERGE (an organization set up to offer help to LGBTQ batterers) and The Anti-Violence Project for LGBTQ people.