“If you don’t have self-control, you shouldn’t be allowed in the club, and alcohol and drugs do not make it excusable or acceptable.” ~Bryan Hawn
On January 21, Tegan Zayne brought #MeToo to the land of gay porn when he accused fellow gay porn star Topher DiMaggio of rape.
By the 26th, Topher released his statement on the allegation but undercut himself when it was revealed that some of his reply was pasted out of context and several sentences were directly plagiarized by the statement Russell Simmons gave to the New York Times on his own assault allegations.
Later that day, another shoe dropped when a man calling himself “Dan” came forward to Hornet App with his allegations against Topher. The next day, the thud of the next shoe was heard when “Bryan” shared his story with Str8UpGayPorn.
That sound heard this morning came from Instinct where You Tuber Bryan Hawn becomes the 4th man to level sexual assault allegations:
“Last year, I was at Mickey’s in Los Angeles where he was hosting for the night, and he came up to me, grabbed me by the legs trying to pick me up and put his hands on my ass,” Bryan alleged. “I yelled for him to stop several times in the middle of the club and he persisted. The club went silent as everyone was staring at me. I had to wrestle with all my strength to get him off of me, he was so incredibly aggressive.”“When he finally stopped, he proceeded to call me a pussy and tell me that I need to learn how to be more of a man. He continued calling me names as we walked back to his friends who were completely embarrassed for him.”
“To put your hands on somebody that you do not know in such an incredibly aggressive manner. It was wrong on every level. I am certain I am not the first guy that has experienced this unwanted attention and probably not the last. I can only imagine in a bedroom setting. That is scary to think about,” Bryan exclaimed. “Just because somebody works in an industry promoting their physique does not grant anyone permission to put their hands on someone’s body. This is not a petting zoo!”
“Topher is not the only one in the community that has crossed that boundary. If you don’t have self-control, you shouldn’t be allowed in the club, and alcohol and drugs do not make it excusable or acceptable.”
“People have said before, ‘well, it’s a gay club… what do u expect’.” Bullshit! Take pride in your community, we aren’t a bunch of wild animals, we are humans. And if we want the rest of the world to treat us with the decent respect of a human being, it’s time we start acting like ones.”
Sexual assault is about a power, not sex. Bryan is alleging assault, not rape. And while there is a big distinction between those two things, sexually predatory behavior is not in anyway acceptable under any circumstances.
The bottom line, no matter what you do for a living, your gender, where you come from, or where you want to go in your life …
No means no. Period.
If you or someone you know has been the victim of rape or sexual assault, there are many resources available for help, including RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network), the National Domestic Violence Hotline for LGBTQ Abuse, EMERGE (an organization set up to offer help to LGBTQ batterers) and The Anti-Violence Project for LGBTQ people.