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Our Exclusive: Rocco Steele On Leaving Porn, Getting Older, & Kids These Days

Trolls to the left as Rocco Steele takes on his toughest critic, himself. Warning: if you thought you already knew what Rocco’s biggest organ is, you are in for a surprise.

Yes. The ten inches between his legs made him a star. But after reading Rocco’s thoughtful, provocative, and self-effacing look at on real age, addiction, gay porn, and LGBTQ youth, something else is clear. That organ between his ears never gets the attention it deserves.

The Sword would like to thank Rocco for his time and honesty. Outspoken as ever but more thorough than usually found on a porn blog, here is the first part of our exclusive interview with this Man of Steele.

gay porn star rocco steele interviewThe Sword: So there is buzz that you are leaving porn. Is there any truth to this and if so why?
Rocco Steele: Yes, there is some truth to that rumor. I never wanted to make any official announcements about it because the minute I did, a scene would come by and then I would make a liar out of myself. Plus, I never wanted to be that “coming out of retirement” guy. But the truth is, I have only shot three scenes in the last 12 months (nobody realizes that of course because I shot so many damn scenes that they will probably float around the Internet for many years to come). I have made a commitment to a studio to shoot a scene for them, and that will probably happen early 2017. I have also said that I would always shoot something for Mr. Pam if she ever needs me again. I find working for her to be a pure joy, so there’s that. But overall, I’m done. In general, I stopped enjoying it and although I never felt like I ever had to “phone it in,” I never wanted to be in that position. I always wanted to give 100%, and if I continued, I would not be able to do that. I decided to stop shooting for many reasons but mainly because I felt I did enough and it as the time to move on. I had been developing my line of underwear for some time, and it was time to focus all my energy on that.

This year you decided to come out about your real age v your “porn age”. What was your motivation behind this?
I have struggled over the years with aging as a gay man. I will speak for myself when I say that as a gay man, I wanted to stay young forever. I felt 25; I didn’t have a serious relationship or children or a home or any of the trappings that make the rest of society feel their age and feel responsible for something. But here I was approaching 50, and I wanted to dig my heels in the dirt and slow it down. So, when I came into porn, I saw a bunch of hot young guys and didn’t see a place for a guy my age. I know I looked good for my age because I took care of myself holistically. So, I decided to shave a few years off. I started telling people I was 44 or 45 or 46. It was so ridiculous because I kept forgetting what I told people so always telling somebody something different…I was always chasing a lie and forgetting what the lie was lol.

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Rocco & Jacob Peterson in “Secrets & Lies”
A couple of things happened that made me decide to embrace my true age and come clean about it. First and foremost, I’m just an honest person. I hate lying about anything. I’m a good (ex) Catholic boy deep down I guess. But mainly I live a life of honesty and integrity, so there was no option as far as that’s concerned. My lying about my age didn’t sync with the way I live my life.

Secondly, as soon as I started porn, it was decided for me that I filled an important niche – and that was “daddy.” My success in Porn is all because of me being a daddy. There were a lot of younger guys, guys in their 30s playing daddies but there weren’t many “true” daddies in porn. When I appeared on the scene, the title was given to me immediately. So, it was hard to turn my back on the obvious which was – my age is what made Rocco Rocco … so I needed to embrace it.

Finally, and this gets me emotional every time I talk about it…but I had a white light revelation about the time I started porn. I’m not sure if the whole porn experience made me reflect on things or what – but it happened.

As a 52-year-old gay male, I lived through and survived the epidemic. When I think back at all the lives our community lost, it humbles me, unlike anything. It was such a profoundly scary and sad time. The young gays don’t get this. And they don’t talk about it. It makes me sad that we don’t talk about what happened to our community and how hundreds of thousands of lives were lost because of indifference and hate and apathy and greed. How men and women fought and died so, we can be where we are today. So, we can have meds that work and keep the horrible deadly disease from taking any more of us.

Thinking about all of this made me humble and grateful. Grateful to those brave men and women who marched and protested and campaigned relentlessly for the country to wake up and acknowledge and treat its citizens with some respect and humanity.

So, there I was two years ago, complaining about approaching 50 and then it hit me. The faces of my friends that I lost came to me, and I imagined if they were still here they would tell me to get the fuck over it. They would say ” you made it, you survived, and we are so proud of you – so you need to embrace this. Be grateful to have another day to pursue your dreams and to love, laugh and live.

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Rocco & JD Phoenix in “Sexperiment”

And so, I did. I got grateful quick. There was no more hesitation about how old I was. I wore 50 as a badge of honor, and I still do. I turned 52 in July and yeah, aging still scares the fuck out of me sometimes…but now I’m grateful for the age, and I’m grateful to be here still.

Did you experience any backlash about revealing your true age?
Not at all. Most people were shocked – shocked because they were convinced I was in my early 40s and couldn’t believe I was 50 something. But when all was said and done, I found that people wanted me to be older anyway because it just played more into the true daddy persona.

As a maturing man in our community, is there any advice you would give to the younger generation of gays?
I want to be careful here because I don’t want to be that preachy guy. But I think the younger generation of gays, those in their 20s especially, need to understand our history and how we have evolved out of the epidemic. I think It’s great that it’s so much easier for the younger gays today to come out and be who they are…but this is only made possible because of the men and women who fought for the rights we have today. AIDS united our community. Back then we didn’t have social media. Our way of speaking out was not as simple as 140 characters. We had to come together…physically congregate and join hands towards our common issues that faced our community. This bonded us. We buried our friends and then marched for our rights. Our parades and our protests were not sponsored by Google or Coca-Cola. They were grass-roots attempts to spread the word, to educate both within and outside our community, so that we could save lives or provide meds for those who were infected.

gay porn star rocco steele interviewHaving said all of this, the thing that troubles me the most which are rampant in our community right now – is gay on gay shaming, specifically as it relates to HIV. I was noticing this over the last several years, especially since hook-up apps became more prevalent in our community. Peter Staley (my hero) wrote an amazing article on this earlier this year for the Huffington Post and referred to this as “digital stonings.” Among many examples, he talks about how guys will bareback with other guys simply because they tell them they are negative, but shame the guy who is honest about his (positive/undetectable) HIV status. Staley talks about how years ago, we had to fight the “external” stigma regarding fears around HIV. Today, we are fighting an “internal” stigma, where we “shun our own.” In addition to the emotional damage this has on our community, the practical damage of increased incidences of HIV transmission is very real, simply because this shaming prevents individuals from getting tested or being honest about their status in a culture now prevalent with barebacking.

So, my advice to the young men and women in our community would be…appreciate our history – learn everything about it. Get educated about HIV and learn about how it is transmitted. Be nice to each other, support one another, regardless of what one’s story happens to be…and maintain the sense of community that so many men and women before you fought to have.

 
 
Have a great weekend, guys. We’ll be back with part two of this exclusive interview where Rocco addresses sobriety, LGBTQ youth, and what he has planned next.

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31 thoughts on “Our Exclusive: Rocco Steele On Leaving Porn, Getting Older, & Kids These Days”

  1. I’ve been a fan of Mr. ROCCO STEELE for many year’s. Never really ever thought about His real age. I am a 69 year old gay man, who came out in 1974. I met my Solemate in February 1977. We have been together every since we met. We were living in Charleston, SC just before AIDS started up. We decided to move to a much smaller place, with no Gay Bar’s and cut out Our Social life in the Gay Lifestyle…
    We watched how much the AIDS epidemic, ran like a wild fire, around the world.
    So I know how much this had an impact on the Gay Community. It is so scary to see how the Young Gay Men are putting so much trust on the PrEP and going Bareback. Just too much ridding on these drugs! I hope Mr Steele, will touch on the unsafe actions the young and older people have gotten so slack. . . My first post and I’ve posted this before!

  2. I’ve been a fan of Mr. ROCCO STEELE for many year’s. Never really ever thought about His real age. I am a 69 year old gay man, who came out in 1974. I met my Solemate in February 1977. We have been together every since we met. We were living in Charleston, SC just before AIDS started up. We decided to move to a much smaller place, with no Gay Bar’s and cut out Our Social life in the Gay Lifestyle…
    We watched how much the AIDS epidemic, ran like a wild fire, around the world.
    So I know how much this had an impact on the Gay Community. It is so scary to see how the Young Gay Men are putting so much trust on the PrEP and going Bareback. Just too much ridding on these drugs! I hope Mr Steele, will touch on the unsafe actions the young and older people have gotten so slack. . .

  3. Justin Brontez Purnell

    It is very obvious this guy is well over 50, he looks more like he is 60+ due to the Meth, AIDS drugs, other drugs, other STDs as he does unsafe porn, etc. I personally do not trust anything that a guy in porn or escort says these people have NPD or are cluster B types and they lie like everything alive breathes and live in fantasy worlds, such as his “Nobody knows I am 50+!” BS. Unsafe sex amongst poz guys just creates and spreads new strains of HIV that are drug resistant and it just makes both people progress to having AIDS much faster. Rocco and other poz guys like him who do it bare have death wishes and are strain chasers.

  4. Well it’s official he’s a fake gay and he loves to fuck pussy. He did this FTM scene and claims that it felt so good to cum in the pussy, that it changed his life, that he never wanted to pull out and that every gay guy should try it once. He’s a fucking loser and nothing more than an old ass fake gay who sounds like a stupid ass conversion therapy advertisement.

  5. Hey man … where do you hang your heads these days? I am sure your retired or taking a break. But the world loves you. No matter how muscular you are or how thin you are. Or out of shape. All the world knows is your the daddy we never had and can only dream about in our heads with your legacy. I see you have not posted in a long time I hope all is well with you.
    I am a fan of yours I think my hard drive is about full lol. I want to talk to you about a sort of modeling job. Nothing big. But every now and then I could use your help. Please do not hesitate contacting me. My email isadam@hcdc.co it’s not . Com it’s actually . Co or text or call after 10 am California time until 4 pm California time. I truly hope all is well and what ever may be going on. Just know you have a legacy that has changed so many lives and you have a lot to be proud of. 19496003369. I hope to hear back.

    1. Hi …I really don’t know what to say other than I hope you’re happy & prosperous. I’m a big fan of yours & I hope this message gives you some comfort & peace. I find what I’ve read about you is very sincere. May God bless you as he has me….I know that might sound corny but I believe in my heart & the good in people. Xoxo , Ep

  6. Rocco’s comments and understanding of our gay heritage are remarkable and humbling. He really speaks the truth about what we, as a community, have been through and about what young gays should learn and embrace about our history. I also breathe a sigh of relief that AIDS did not touch me physically in any way. I was fortunate to find a wonderful partner in 1977, and we’ve been together for 39 years now. We have always been monogamous so we, very fortunately, were never exposed to AIDS. I know that there is a new movement to forego condoms and enjoy sex “naturally”, but young people please use caution and protection. You’ll be happy to live to a ripe old age.

  7. HIV doesn’t exist – AIDS killed 0 people last year. Stop believing consultants to BIG PHARMA and fucking educate yourselves!!!

  8. As a 61 year old gay, I am proud to see that I am not alone and that he is understanding of where he has arrived. I see so many young gays just not giving a s**t about anyone but themselves. I hope that they take away from his interview the wealth of information and feelings he has shared with us. I have enjoyed his work/talent, and admired his ‘asset,’ but I have always wanted to know more. Thank you for letting me into a part of your life. Enjoy your life.

  9. I’m a bit biased as I’ve always found Rocco to be the ultimate alpha daddy with his deep husky masculine voice and that large equipment between his legs. I love how he dominates his bottoms with a commanding manner but remains attentive to pleasuring them. I found the article to be frank, honest and all that I would expect of my hero. Ever since the 1980’s, the SEX in the gay community has focused on youth. I came out in this period, and back then older gay men (older than 45) hadn’t maintained their health or their looks. Many of them smoked, drank, and weren’t accustomed to working out with weights. But much has changed since then, and I see lots of hot older men now. I think it’s great and hope that they’re sexually active. Best of luck to you Rocco. I hope you will indulge us now and again with another hot sex scene!!

  10. I began to read this and my eyes began to water. I have been infected for 34 years. I have watched ALL of my friends die one after another after another. In the last few years they have been dying from heart attacks instead of HIV infection. Old age, heroin, and suicides have followed. I take steroids (some Dr. prescribed some not) use rogain and dye my hair to get rid of the grey. I go to a gym very frequently. I do ALL OF THIS because I DO NOT WANT TO DIE IN MY OWN ARMS. When I am in public I get alot of looks. People in gay bars ALWAYS give me the “up-down” look. I am so lonely I want to kill myself EVERY DAY. I have also been taking insulin for 44 years. I am a pretty spectacular example of a man even if you dont consider my medical problems. When I turned 18 an Infectious disease Dr. told me I had 3 to 5 years to live. I moved to Boston and was the highest paid escort there for quite a few years. I have NEVER infected anyone. I did meet a Dr of developmental sociolgy from Cornell. We were joined at the hip for a few years. He was the best thing that ever happened to me. He died of pnumonia 6 months after we were married. I have had a good life, not many regrets, But I have to say I do not value my life very much. Mostly because I am alone.

  11. Bravo for his honesty and expressing the importance of knowing our history, especially when it comes to nearly an entire generation of gay men being lost to AIDS. I hope that in the next installment, he will speak about not only the importance of knowing one’s HIV status, and condoms, but also PrEP as an important prevention tool for at least HIV (not other STD’s). Too many gay men continue to get infected at a time when we have an opportunity to greatly reduce new infections in our own communities.

  12. This interview wasn’t anything that hasn’t been done before over and over and over. A burned out pornstar? He’s no different than anyone else doing porn. They all get burned out, quit, and come back. He can’t be serious that people actually thought he was in his 40s. Once again he’s doing what many pornstars do…lie about something like their age, dick, size, and or sexual role.

    He looks middle aged so what was he getting out of shaving off a few years? He’s already seen how pervs are even more turned on knowing that he’s way over 50. Young people today weren’t even born for many years after AIDS. It’s really disturbing that he’s been performing in so much bareback porn and also doing condom scenes. Rocco Steele has put too many people of all ages at risk! He’ll be back to porn putting young guys at risk before you can blink an eye.

    1. Yes, this is as true as it gets and people are just so worried about being offended that they would delude themselves from the truth.

    2. You are a very bitter queen ! I found him honest. He didn’t need to say any of that. You are assuming he put young bottom actors at risk. Maybe he is NEG. he seems like a very nice guy to me.what do you get out of being so hateful ??

  13. Great interview from a guy who has experienced much of what gay porn is about. Kudos to The Sword for publishing another good interview. Looking forward to the next installment. We need more like this.

  14. This is exactly the kind of commentary interview I want to see far, far more of. There has to be lots of gay porn performers that have very interesting perspectives on life and I really want to hear what they have to say on a whole range of issues. Please continue to do these type of interviews!

  15. WOW! This article is out of this world!I had the utmost respect for Rocco before this but now it is times 10! Rocco has always been someone I have wanted to meet,not to have a random hook up with,but to have a intellectual conversation with because I knew he was a lot more than just a cock!!!
    You are a amazing person Rocco and I hope to meet you someday!

  16. Wow I like him now, I thought He was lying about his sexual preferences but he was actually masculine gay top which I dreamed of…but I still think he was bisexual.

  17. Good friends hard to come by, I always felt an honesty and integrity and compassion
    in Rocco Steele , you can see it in his eyes . It’s just there. I wish there were more compassionate gay men out there who spoke and felt this way and backed it up with actions. It’s all about integrity and caring about yourself . wISH THERE WERE MORE LIKE HIM IN THE WORLD . WE NEED MORE GAY MEN WITH COMPASSION, FOR THOSE WITH HIV, AND LESS OSTRACIZATION BY OWN.

  18. Great interview, and he makes some really good points. There are too many younger gays who are not educated about HIV and they then discriminate others in our own community based upon their lack of knowledge and that needs to stop.

  19. The way porn is today, I don’t think there ‘s a place in it for mature porn performers anymore. At least in the ” mainstream porn “. The olders seem to be relegated to a niche kinda of porn like : Bears or daddies. Thanks for it, I’ll wait for the second part.

  20. I wish somebody with your mentality lived close by because you would make the perfect husband. But the Bible Belt would hang me for wanting such a thing.

  21. Damn. This is almost too good to be on a gay porn site. Pay attention, youngins. Your real daddy can’t give you advice like this.

  22. what a phenomenal interview. I’m a big fan of Rocco Steele, the porn star, and now an even bigger fan of Rocco Steele the man. I can’t wait to see what Rocco does next!

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