image from Titan’s Impact Play
In an interview that originally appeared in Instigator Magazine, Titan Man Tony Buff and his pain pig boy Derek da Silva discuss public impact play:
To many outside observers, our play looks rather violent, but …it’s a brutal expression of our love and the way we make our deepest connection. Inevitably, when we play in public or even in semi-private settings, someone will try to stop our scene. All they see is violence and abuse. Even when I am beating on Derek unrestrained, there is often someone that thinks that this must be non-consensual, even though he clearly could step away at any time — or just use his martial arts background to kick the SHIT out of me.
Derek has previously said that pain is more central to his sexuality than dicks and assholes, and for Tony, “this play is one of our deepest expressions of love.” But some bar-goers roll their eyes when the sounds of grunting and whip cracks begin to fill the bar. Here’s how the blogger Bill in Exile — a long-time slutty ex-Marine like Tony — responded to the couple’s public display at a Seattle gay bar last month:
Tony seemed like a charming enough sort… Charming that is until he decided it was time to extemporaneously smack around his “Boy” a bit for some infraction of protocol either real or imagined. This was done in full view of all the club patrons — which, I guess is the whole point isn’t it? To do something like that in public I mean. Its sort of like being a three year old and jumping up and down at a restaurant while screaming at your parents, “Look at me! Look at me!”
For Bill in Exile, public impact play is for disruptive show-offs. But for Tony and Derek, public impact play is less about attention-whoring and more about kinkster conservation. Derek left this comment on my article about the death, and maybe rebirth, of leather culture:
Here is something you can do…: PLAY. Do it in the bar. Fuck them if they don’t like it. Tony Buff and I play in bars all the time and we get shut down all the time. When that happens we know what kind of bar we are in and we fucking move on. Why do we think it’s important to do this shit in public? Because IT’S OUR FUCKING SPACE and WE WANT TO CLAIM IT. If you run a leather bar and are freaked out by a flogging or bondage or bootlicking or whatever you should stop exploiting our community and open something else.
If you are a title holder and you are weirded out by the crazy shit we do (safely I might add) maybe you should move on because you have no fucking clue – and you are supposed to represent and lead us. Players need to reclaim our spaces, and when that doesn’t happen we need to make new spaces.
So while the cool kids have a right to diss the yelping freaks in the corner, the yelping freaks in the corner have a right not to give a shit. And before you start to wish that the “show-offs” would just stop their disruptive mating rituals, take a moment and remember that that’s how endangered species go extinct.
Derek Da Silva: ‘If You’re Going to Set Someone On Fire, Have a Wet Towel Ready’
Tony Buff Will Fuck Jesus Christ When He Dies
[NSFW] Tony Buff Beat Someone Up Again
Anatomy of a Scene: Impact Play (Tony Buff blog)
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