What has your sexual activity been like over the last five months? As the pandemic continues to alter our way of living, have you changed your behaviors? At five months and counting with no cock, I’m about to lose my mind.
The last time I had a dick in my mouth was March 11. I know the exact date because I still have the before-and-after texts on my phone (including the last one that made me smile: “Thanks again, man…that was hot.”). I would have remembered anyway, because it was a spirited suck where I made him squirt using just my mouth. He’s a regular, and has the perfect combo of length and girth that makes it just challenging enough to engulf.
It seems like an eternity ago. If you asked me when the last time was that I went five-plus months with no sexual activity, I’d be hard-pressed to answer (maybe that says more about me than anything; go ahead and slut shame if you must). But these are unprecedented times, and the fear of contracting COVID-19 has unfortunately been like a baseball bat to my sex drive. When will it be raging and healthy again? Will I even remember how to suck?!
In early April, hung stud Masked Jock tweeted this…
FYI pic.twitter.com/iJkb6zhzxk
— (@MaskedJock) April 8, 2020
At the time, it made me laugh. Now? It’s not so funny.
I live alone. I’m single. I’ve done a great job of distancing myself over the last five months. I’m jealous of those who get to quarantine with someone (I’m looking at you, Cade Maddox and Kevin Benoit; Jake Nicola and Vince Parker; Nick Fitt and Clark Davis; Jake and Steven Lee; Zack and Riley Mitchel).
My ultimate fear isn’t for my own health, but for the loved ones that I spend (albeit) minimal time with. Even though I still wear a mask and keep distance when we’re together, I’ve been extra careful. The thought that one moment of sexual gratification could in any way increase the likelihood of me passing something on to my older family members is scary enough to keep me abstinent (and away from the gym, which has been even more agonizing). I guarantee that there are countless among us who are (or have been) asymptomatic. And I don’t think we know enough yet to be sure that even if someone had the coronavirus, that it’s completely out of their system after 14 days.
In the first few months when the pandemic took hold in the United States, I didn’t even log on to Grindr or Scruff. I just didn’t have the desire. But that has returned over the months, and I now linger from time to time, engaging in conversations, dirty talk and pic exchanges…but no actual activity.
That’s not for a lack of opportunity, which is disheartening. I’m shocked at the ease with which complete strangers are instantly ready to hookup without any discussion of safety. “Free to play? A blowjob won’t hurt anything.” “RU looking because I’m headed home otherwise.” “U into Tag Team 3Sums?” Then there’s the people who engage in meaningful conversation like they totally feel the same way…then disappear when they realize that actually, no, I’m really not going to hook up with you right now. Those are even more depressing to me.
Will I crack? At some point, probably. Hopefully with someone I know and trust (ahem, what’s up Mr. Hung March Guy?!). But it isn’t just about me, it’s about finding someone who is in the exact same place mentally and physically. It’s all about timing and comfort levels. And that’s never easy in general. Reports have come out that glory hole sex is a safer option, but I’m not sure that screams “safe” to me in general (does Crate & Barrel sell quality glory hole boards? If I could set one up right inside my front door that would be great…).
Am I being too cautious? How have you been behaving sexually over the last five months? Do you hook up with new dudes, or just regulars? Do you have just one buddy to make it through until things look up?
In the meantime, it’s back to porn—an essential business if ever there was one. So if I’m not gonna suck dick, I’m sure as hell gonna live vicariously through someone else doing it. Speaking of, I’m off to watch a scene with one of my favorite blowjobs ever: Leo Forte slobbering all over Christian Wilde’s big cock in NakedSword’s Stalker…
February 2020 for me. It was with a guy i was dating who had to move away in February and then i went on vacation skiing. i came home literally days before lockdown hit and i promptly was sick as a dog. Fortunately Not Covid. Been alone at home ever since. Distancing/mask/shield when i do go out (and no gym). This situation really really sucks for single people! I NEED SEX but not likely until there are at least effective therapeutics !
I have semi-regular contact with three people in their 80’s, one with cancer. So I just can’t bring myself to do anything with anyone right now… it has been a really dry 2020. What put the final nail in the sex coffin was when they found semen contains coronavirus in infected people. I don’t swallow, always play safer, but funny how semen can get from your fingers to your mouth or face
Last time I sucked cock was April of 2019. I remember because it was my birthday. I’ve had no sex since then. I live alone so the situation SUCKS big time! Have cancer, so my immune system is compromised, which means no sex until pandemic is over or they come up with a vaccine. Talk a lot on the phone with friends and family so I won’t go utterly bat-shit crazy! I also watch TV with my furry dog-child. He does not like it when other dogs are on screen!
The guys who aren’t being careful are those that never buried a friend or partner who died from AIDS.
Amen brother …
Get yourself a friend with benefits who works from home and is a horny top that is willing to work you over at home.
that’s at best only moderately safer than getting gang banged at a COVID Party. Smarten up. COVID-19 is very easy to catch, you could have it and be asymptomatic, you could catch it from anyone you know or any essential worker, and so could he. Think of everyone you are in contact with, all the people he is in contact with, and all the people those people are in contact with. Think of all the morons who refuse to wear masks and stay 6 feet away from each other, and think about that when you’ve got your lips around a cock or your legs in the air. If it were only about you, I’d say, have at it, have some mindless fun, catch it and hope that you don’t get seriously sick, die or have long-lasting health complications or conditions… also, top up any health insurance you may have, if you have any. It’s your body and your choice, ultimately. But the risk of passing it to dozens of other people, whether they are people you know and love or are total strangers, is just selfish and irresponsible. It’s time to use your other head in this case. I get that we all have sex drives, and I pass no judgment on that. But there are times when the risk to yourself and to the population at large is just too great. Watch porn, have phone or Skype sex and jerk off like the rest of us. 3/4 of the time that’s better than random causal sex anyway.
I think this is a refreshing, thoughtful, and sexy summary of the issue. I caved and got a masturbator with a battery (love it so far…). But I’m not going to hook up until there’s a substantial drop in cases. I’m a little older (56) so being extra cock-shy. But I totally appreciate. how frustrating this is for all of us that like to hook up or go to a sex club or bathhouse on occasion. Thanks for writing this.
Way to be a walking, talking stereotype, Dan Carrington.
Guys are hooking up anyway, just look at the idiots still shooting for their onlyfans. It’s baffling how studios are taking precautions not to shoot to keep models safe yet I’m seeing a lot of gay models not giving a fuck and still going out and fucking for tier onlyfans.
Honestly at this rate, I can see many of these models keep spreading COVID-19. I wouldn’t be surprised if we end up becoming the next ones to be targeted and blamed for the spread of this.
I’m with you on this issue, Dan Carrington. I am at high-risk for Covid-19 because I have severely compromised immunity from the last pandemic (AIDS), also a genetic heart problem, and diabetes. There’s no such thing as too careful, and morons & porn “actors” who are playing Russian-roulette with their health, and the health of friends and family need to be locked up! They are the reason the economy is stalled out. If you live alone and don’t have a quarantine sex buddy, your isolation tolerance is maxed out by now, and your mental health is shaky. But the greater risk is from dying on a ventilator in the hospital, or seeing one of your parents die.
benarms, you read my mind! I know of one porn actor, one of my favorites, who lives in Florida, which is now ground zero for the virus. And yet he traveled to LA, attended several sex parties, filmed himself enjoying a few men and the posted all of it on only for fans, onlyfans, and tweeted it. Then the following week he filmed a scene with several other guys in Chicago. which was just released on RFC. He told his ” fans ” that he didn’t have time to do any posting ( while he was away ) because he was studying for some upcoming tests, he said he was taking some classes. hmmm, didn’t know schools were open. Hey, if a guy can do all this and not endanger himself OR anyone else, great. I don’t think its in his cards
Did you ever pause to think that many of the models don’t have much money saved up to live on. Many of them aren’t working in “regular jobs” so they aren’t going to be eligible for either the $600 a week that those on unemployment got nor would they be eligible for some sort of hazard pay that some frontline workers got. If you really care about their health and well-being why don’t you give the, a financial donation to hold them over till this pandemic passes.
Kile I would donate but these spoiled brats are too confident with their PrEP thinking it’s the cure all. I honestly get too worked up at times because these brats are going to keep spreading it and keep this from going. And the worse part since we’re a small population we’re more likely to get it from them somehow.
Wow, you sound very judgmental. How do you know what those “spoiled brats” believe about PREP. The mainstream studios have transitioned from condom use to full bareback part of that requires models to be on PREP. Part of the issue lies with viewers paying for bareback content. If “fans” like yourself were so concerned you would find ways to show your support for these performers.
Why am I going to support guys that are obviously being greedy and careless fuck? One of these brats is going to catch the virus and just watch you’ll start seeing all these onlyfan gays start spreading it to one another. It’s only time until this happens.
Also stop defending them, defending them isn’t going to make them fuck you if that’s why you’re doing it.
kile, I just happened to have done that very thing! I used the ” tip me ” button to send him some money. Little did I or any of his other fans know at that very moment, he was in LA going to sex parties and filming it all. I’m not judging anyone, I’m really concerned about all these guys that haven’t any savings to fall back on. I get it, I’ve been locked up at home ( alone sadly ) for four months. I’ve wanted to make that call, or send that text many nights. But all i could think about was I somehow survived getting AIDS, I’m not gonna chance it now … I’ll live with a great ass or dick for a while. I just hope there are some left when this scourge is over … take care buddy, and WASH YOUR HANDS /;+\
Howie I’m defending them because they are human beings that deserve to be respected , if you don’t care about them so much, why are you here on a site about porn.