Here is a terrible new website designed specifically for people who are HIV-negative.
BeingHIVNegative is an aggregator of articles about how to avoid HIV, which on the surface is fine. Who wouldn’t want to avoid HIV? But after scrolling down the homepage and reading headlines like “How I Didn’t Get AIDS,” “Undetectable Viral Load: As Safe As It Sounds?” “I’m HIV Negative,” “Saving Safe Sex,” how is this a website just about keeping negative people negative and not also a website about making positive people feel horrible?
How, after reading the “About” section for HuffPoHIVNegative BeingHIVNegative, is this not the most pointless bullshit you’ve ever read?
The overwhelming majority of gay men — across all age groups and all over the world — are HIV-negative, despite all the sex that we’ve all had with each other in the decades since HIV began entering the sexual networks that we all share in the 1970s, at the latest.
This means that most gay men are engaged with the idea of staying HIV-negative, understand how to give themselves the best chance of achieving that, and will continue to do so.
This website is not to provide a forum for gloating or antagonism, but rather give voice to the bulk of us who are being increasingly left out of a conversation dominated by a vocal minority of HIV-positive men, who have their own contexts, concerns and agendas, and who deserve as much respect as we do.
Finally, a safe space for people to commiserate over being…healthy?
When I asked publisher Mark Adnum what the point of his website was, he replied, “To balance the dialogue which is saturated by HIV-positive barebacking enthusiasts saying that staying Negative is worthless.”
Aside from bareback gay porn studio press releases or some idiot on a message board bragging (if not lying) about taking 50 loads in one night, I’m not sure where these “dialogues” are taking place in real life. And if they are occurring, who’s stupid enough to be swayed by them?
The overwhelming majority of positive men I know would prefer to be negative, and they encourage those who are to stay that way, so trying to segregate healthy HIV-negative people into separate forums to express their “concerns” is an embarrassing and pathetic waste of time. What’s next, an online support group for white people afraid of being shot by George Zimmerman?
There’s enough shame that unfortunately comes with being HIV-positive in the first place, but stigmatizing an entire community by manufacturing a need for “balanced dialogue” due to the reckless behavior of a few is what’s really shameful.