A few words in tribute to a sweet soul that was taken from the world after not spending nearly enough time here.
I first met Dave a little over a year ago. He was up for Male Web Cam Model of the Year and was so proud to have taken home the trophy.
I had lunch with him a couple of weeks when he was in town to attend the XBiz Miami Show.
In between, we had kept in contact by text.We were casual acquaintances. However, given our exchanges were often also interviews for The Sword, they were more personal and in-depth than the routine occasional check-in.
When I had lunch with him a couple of weeks ago, he had never looked better. Specifically, he had had been losing weight, watching his diet carefully, hitting the gym, and building his body the old-fashioned way: with reps not ‘roids.
And it showed. Not just in his physique, but in glowing skin, enviable bag-free eyes, and an attitude of excitement.
A lot of the positive attitude was fueled by the fact his first scene was set to be released very shortly, he had two completed scenes on the schedule, and had he was excited about the future bookings already set both in the studio and for his cam shows.
Dave was a new kind of porn star. It was a natural progression from the “grassroots” legions of fans he had amassed during his webcam shows and social media following that ultimately led him to the studios, not the other way around.
In particular, with the release of his first scenes just around the corner, Dave was very hopeful that exposure would further elevate his already very successful webcam shows into an entirely new level.
In short, he felt like he had the tiger by the tail and couldn’t wait to see what was next.
Both with me and with others, Dave was not shy to discuss he had indeed had a substance issue in the past. And that was most definitely in the past. He was now far too goal-oriented for that to be a part of his present.
As for what happened to cause his very untimely death, the truth is we know little more than the fact of it, but nothing about the exact circumstances and reasons why. There’s been plenty of speculation used to fill in the blanks. It’s not helpful at only tarnishes Dave’s memory before many had the chance to get to know him.
Rest in peace, Dave. And comfort to your family and friends.
You will be missed.
[UPDATE] Since I wrote this post, “police said syringes were found inside the bathroom” where Dave was found. The initial autopsy proved “inconclusive.” The Medical Examiner’s Office said the “cause and manner of death is pending,” and the toxicology reports are not yet completed.
Is it possible Dave relapsed after seemingly taming the beast? The truth is we don’t know yet. What we do know is that addiction is a serious disease.
If you or someone you care about is battling addiction, there are resources tailored to our community waiting to help you help yourself
We will continue to uodate this story as further details become available.