Hello, readers! I hope all of you have had wonderful holidays and that 2015 has been off to as bizarrely challenging a start as it has for me! But bizarrely challenging in a positive way, I mean.
One question that was left in the comments of the last post reminded me of some of the Twitter exchanges I’ve seen over the past couple years that I find kind of fascinating. So let’s do this: the age old discussion of GAY-FOR-PAY.
I have worked with a handful of gentlemen who are straight-identified, some openly so, some are a little more private about it, all of them fantastic humans. The question in the comments was how I felt about working with these guys. It’s pretty simple: I feel great about working with them, because they are hard workers and good people.
The Twitter wars, however, were of a very different nature. Twitter, while my main means of peddling smut, seems to also have become a breeding ground for the kind of discourse that never goes anywhere, with people trying to have the last word on any topic of discussion (mostly political) in which the common folk are able to just throw an @soandso in their tweets, in the hopes that someone well known person will read their sometimes valid and often stupid opinions.
Normally I’m able to let things roll off my back, but there was one guy who wouldn’t let up, calling me out as not only straight but HIV-positive.
“Aren’t you straight?”
“That’s not *really* any of your business.”
“See, I knew you were straight, you won’t even admit it, is it because you’re ashamed of taking work from all these hardworking gay porn actors? You should stick to your own kind, breeder!!”
Also, something along the lines of (and i’m giving you the abridged versions here):
“Is there a reason you have not come out as HIV+?”
“Why would I do that if I’m not HIV+?”
“YOU’RE A LIAR AND YOU’RE THE SCUM OF THE EARTH, spreading shame and lies, HOW COULD YOU?”
Before I blocked these fuckers, there was one I had to call out and report, because it was straight-up cyberbullying. Ain’t nobody got time for that.
I bring this up because the straight-shaming I’ve seen among gay porn viewers made me recall some of what I’d studied during my graduate program about the doubts around bisexuality. Like it doesn’t exist. If you’re fucking dudes, you MUST be gay. And the truth about that is, it’s BULLSHIT. If I fucked a vagina, would that make me straight? Hell no, man. It would make me straight-curious. Or there really doesn’t need to be a label for that, does there?
We have focused so long on binary terms and labels in regards to sexual identity that we forget about all this grey area. If it’s making you hard when you watch, then what’s the problem? I mean granted, there are, in fact, those amateur scenes where the guys look so bored, like they can’t wait for whoever’s paying them to cum on their faces so they can grab their paycheck and run back to the military base or whatever. But some of the guys hired by big studios are hired because they are PROS.
Sexuality is a spectrum, and my fellow models who find themselves dancing on this spectrum will always have my support, and they should have yours as well.
And just so we are fucking clear as a bell on the issue: I am, in fact, HIV-negative, I have been taking Truvada/PrEP for 13 months, and I always have and always will stand by my HIV+ brothers, in porn, in life, until the cure is found. If you have a problem with any of the above, kindly FUCK OFF. Thanks! :-D
P.S. I realize most of you just want to read smut, and I’ll be posting some more of that soon.